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Finding Your Voice In An Insensitive World

About the Author

Owner and CEO of Standup Coaching, LLC.

Debra Alford is a certified professional coach, Communication and Relationship Coach, International Best-Selling Author, Keynote speaker, and Guest Speaker. Her expertise spans the private and corporate sectors. She facilitates interpersonal communication by teaching the art of connection within the dynamics of home life and the business world. With a lifetime of experience, she encourages individuals to understand their value, purpose, and passion by connecting with their God-given purpose and destiny.

The Story Behind My Book

Debra Alford

Many have commented on how they have found the Journal to be a powerful must-have tool for measuring their own progress.


Within the chapters of this book are outlined some of the most profound challenges many of us have faced as children and adolescents and how those past struggles can still surface today as we live through our adult lives. The goal of this book is to help you identify what is holding you back from being your true God-given authentic self. This book is a tool to help you seek and find your true identity and purpose and set you up for success in your divine future. 


At the end of each chapter, there is a section called "Call to Action," where you have the opportunity to journal your thoughts from each chapter. Journaling helps us identify where we are, our thoughts, struggles, desires, and dreams, and unloads the mind to think clearer. Journaling encourages self-confidence and boosts emotional intelligence while helping us achieve goals; it helps us by inspiring creativity, increasing our memory, and enhancing critical thinking skills. Journaling allows you to see your progress and continued successes.  

Discover Your Purpose and Identity

We often lose our identity and value when we experience trauma and pain. Sit Down and Shut Up helps you discover who God created you to be in His amazing love. Just imagine He created a plan for your life before you were born. Our job and responsibility is to seek the Lord and ask the following questions: What is YOUR plan for MY life, what does that look like, and how do you want me to steward what you show me?

"For I know the plans I have for you.”
Declares the Lord

"plans to prosper you and not to harm you,

plans to give you hope and a future."

Jeremiah 29:11


Sit Down and Shut Up helps you identify your divine purpose and guides you in finding it through God's Word and through His perspective. 

“I can do all things,

[which He has called me to do]

through Him who strengthens and empowers me

[to fulfill His purpose –

I am self-sufficient in Christ’s sufficiency.]

Philippians 4:13a


Be the Victor!

Sit Down and Shut Up is an inspirational book that helps you understand your ability to choose and sift through the words spoken about you and other voices that seem to demand your attention. The Word reminds us to "Seek first the Kingdom of God. You are the Victor! Walk in the love and mercy of the Lord.

                “For everyone born of God is victorious."




Shut Up!

What people are saying about
Sit Down and Shut Up

5.0 out of 5 stars. This book can change your life!

November 22, 2022

"This book, Sit Down & Shut Up, is an inspirational read! Once you start reading, you won’t want to stop.
The Author takes you on a journey through incredible odds and shows how faith in Jesus, never giving up, and searching for the truth can change your life! You may even find the purpose for your life like the author did. This is a journey worth taking without exception. I Highly Recommend this book to anyone searching for the real person that they were created to be."

5.0 out of 5 stars. Truly Inspiring!

November 30th, 2022

"This book is wonderful and is something that everyone can relate to in one way or another. The struggles she endured and how the Lord guided her is truly inspiring. It has truly made me listen harder for his words to come through to me."

5.0 out of 5 stars. Inspirational Read!

November 30th, 2022

"Deep emotional hurts have a way of surfacing from time to time, and we want to bury those hurts deeper, hoping to forget. Debra helps us understand that in our finest hours or weakest moments, we are loved, and nothing can separate us from God's love. Overcoming via Forgiveness is an important lesson to learn!"

5.0 out of 5 stars. Inspiring!

November 30th, 2022

"Sometimes, we need to hear and see things from a different perspective in order to see the value in our own stories, and that’s exactly what this author has been able to provide by sharing their own unique experience."

5.0 out of 5 stars.  Fantastic!

December 2nd, 2022

"I think this book is really helpful in sorting through your past experiences and finding the best way for you to move forward."

5.0 out of 5 stars. Powerful book!

December 9th, 2022

"Amazing how the author could go through so much and turn out to be the woman of God she is today. It’s hard to comprehend all the trials and temptations she endured; they are on a different path. If you want a relatable book right from the very beginning that shows you the power of God, this is a must-read."

5.0 out of 5 stars. You Have a Voice in the World!

July 17th, 2023

"This is a powerful book of hope! In each difficult situation in her life, Debra found hope and something positive to say! I learned much about my life’s purpose and how to look at the positive side of challenges. It is professionally written with a tender heart towards the Lord, and you will enjoy every page! You may want to buy more copies to share in a group setting, as she has a Call to Action at the end of each chapter that would be good to discuss."

5.0 out of 5 stars. Be grateful for Tough Times!

Reviewed in the United States on November 30, 2022

"Could not have imagined the impact this book was going to have on my life, into reading it a second time around and do not believe it is possible to wear it out. The author from the time of her childhood growing up in a dysfunctional family, had an inquisitive mind, that would irritate her mom, who would tell her to, "sit down and shut up." Leads us into the realization that no matter how difficult the path, each experience awakens within us valuable insights that brings us ever closer to the plan that God has for our life, quoting Psalm 139:13. She has an enlightening firm foundation in the Word of God, the Bible, and let's us know in no uncertain terms, that life and death is in the power of the tongue! Using an analogy of watching her grandma sift flour as a child, to get rid of the lumps, Debra, vigorously draws to our attention the need to sift through the words that we speak. Today after many tears and struggles, Debra is a Communication and Relationship Expert, Marriage Coach, Mentor, Speaker and Author. This book will definitely challenge you in discovering your purpose life. Well written, it will grab your attention, you will not want to put it down!"

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